I have to say that I must be losing it a little bit. Either that or I have been overcome by a weird force of positivity. How could I go from crying about IVF to being excited about it? DH and I were even cracking jokes in the waiting room at RE’s office this morning. I was giddy from nerves and excitement and thought it was hilarious that he had major hat-head and that he was reading a children’s “Clifford” book since the only other reading material was Parents magazines. Im still waiting for the medication side effects to rear their ugly heads to send me into Debbie Downer Mode. Im guessing it will come once the progesterone comes into play. For now, I will just focus on my IVF plan. Here are my highlights:
- RE was adamant about transferring ONLY ONE embryo. Being the all business doc that she is (let’s call her A.B.R.E), she is super anti-multiples. She wants no part of them. She has no desire to play with fate and drop two in just to increase the odds for success. This is a good thing that she is so strict about this because I can totally see DH & I irresponsibly asking for two just for the gamble. ABRE does not gamble!!
- We decided to definitely freeze our extras. I never realized all of the legal issues that can come with this! We decided that if we were to get a divorce, the embryos would get destroyed. I said that if I didnt want DH around I didnt think I would want any more of his kids running around! If one of us dies or “disappears” (??!) the other will decide what happens with the rest. Ugly scenario but I guess anything could happen.
- Hooray! I somehow got out of taking the pill for 20 days! ABRE said it wasnt absolutely necessary if I really felt that the side effects were that serious. Honestly, they really do make me super depressed and emotional. I’m one of the few women over 30 that never really took the pill. I really always thought that the “rhythm method” really worked or that I was really just lucky that I never got knocked up. (Haha!!)
- Im very pleased that there is no bed rest involved. ABRE said this is an old school practice and is not necessary. Besides taking it easy the day of the transfer, I can go on from there as normal.
- Overall, my chances for success are very good (50-60%) so that is what I am focusing on. For ABRE to say that chances are good, it must mean REALLY good. I’ll take that over the crappy 20% success rate of IUI.
So if I get the dreaded BFN from IUI#4 it will be on Thanksgiving weekend (“Umm, can you please pass EVERYTHING including the bottle of wine? No need for a glass , thank you. I’ll just take the bottle..”) . That will put my IVF transfer around mid-January. Looking forward to a BFP in 2010!